The need for intimacy is ageless. And studies now confirm that no matter what your gender, you can enjoy sex for as long as you wish. Naturally, sex at 70 or 80 may not be like it is at 20 or 30—but in some ways it can be better.
As an older adult, you may feel wiser than you were in your earlier years, and know what works best for you when it comes to your sex life. Older people often have a great deal more self-confidence and self-awareness, and feel released from the unrealistic ideals of youth and prejudices of others. And with children grown and work less demanding, couples are better able to relax and enjoy one another without the old distractions.
For a number of reasons, though, many adults worry about sex in their later years, and end up turning away from sexual encounters. Some older adults feel embarrassed, either by their aging bodies or by their “performance,” while others are affected by illness or loss of a partner. Without accurate information and an open mind, a temporary situation can turn into a permanent one. You can avoid letting this happen by being proactive. Whether you’re seeking to restart or improve your sex life, it’s important to be ready to try new things, and to ask for professional help if necessary.
There is much you can do to compensate for the normal changes that come with aging. With proper information and support, your later years can be an exciting time to explore both the emotional and sensual aspects of your sexuality. The following are 12 ways that can help enhance your sex life.
1. Accept and celebrate who you are at any age. Accept and embrace your physical changes
2. Communicate with your partner and let each other know what you like and don’t like
3. Keep an open mind and a positive attitude
4. Take more time to set the stage for romance; romantic dinner, an evening dancing or a sensual massage
5. Focus on intimacy and physical touch
6. Be playful. It helps both partners to relax
7. Hold each other and extend gentle touching and kissing
8. Don’t be afraid to introduce a new adult toy to heighten arousal
9. Let go of expectations and be in the moment
10. Focus on the importance of tenderness and contact
11. Stay in shape; Sex is just as healthy and necessary as exercise, it will also help you feel more attractive
12. Communication after sex is important. Pillow talk is always a good way to share passionate feelings and to grow closer and more intimate
If something keeps getting in the way of your sexual performance, seek professional help for impotence or lack of orgasm or arousal.
If you are seeing a new partner, talk to your partner and protect yourself.
Sex is not just about intercourse. Sex can also be about emotional pleasure, sensory pleasure, and relationship pleasure. Intercourse is only one way to have fulfilling sex. Touching, kissing, and other intimate sexual contact. Sexuality necessarily takes on a broader definition as we age.
Try to open up to the idea that sex can mean many things, and that closeness with a partner can be expressed in many ways and can be just as rewarding for both you and your partner.
Article Courtesy of 50 PLUS REPORT Editorial Team
Sources and References
Seniors & Aging: Sexual Activity – Informative, straightforward article about benefits, challenges, and ways to maximize Sex. (Health Canada)
Tips for Older Men – Advice for men about how to maintain and enjoy a healthy sex life in later years. (Mayo Clinic)
Staying Sexual After Menopause – Offers detailed solutions for women. (National Women’s Health Network)
Stay Fit for a Longer Sex Life – Describes the positive effects of exercise on seniors’ sex lives. (Aetna Inteli Health)